How to cope with Shy Child

NOT few parents felt confused about her fruit very shy to socialize. Let alone deal with strangers, to play with his peers he might have felt reluctant.

So, what steps should be taken so that children are more open and confident? Learn some tips expressed by some experts the following:

1. Eye contact
When talking with your child, ask her always to look at your eyes. With force and apply it every time, gradually the child will be accustomed to making eye contact with the speaker.

If children do not feel comfortable looking at the speaker right in the eye, teach him to look at the top of the nose between the eyes of people in front of him. With repeated practice, children will not require this technique more and more confidence to stare directly at his interlocutor.

2. Coaching conversations
Create a list containing the opening sentence of the conversation is easy to use children to converse with various groups of people, eg people who have been familiar, adults who have never met, who seldom met old friends, new kid at school, or child who often play with him in playground.

After that, get the children to practice using these sentences to feel familiar and comfortable to say it. One trick that can be used to practice conversation via telephone with supportive listeners at the other end. Thus, the child will not feel setertekan as if face to face talks.
3. Practicing socialization
Prepare your child to attend a social event that will soon be held to explain the background, expectations, and the audience of roughly come to the program. Then, help your child practice how to meet other people, table manners, basic skills of speaking, and how to say goodbye gracefully.

4. Opponent practice
Philip Zimbardo, renowned as an expert in overcoming shyness, shy boy recommends to pair with the younger children to practice within a short period. Create opportunities for children to play with other children younger than he, for example, sister, cousin, neighbor's child, or one of your acquaintances child.

If a shy teenage boy, let him take care of small children to practice the skills practiced are reluctant to socialize with children his age.

5. One on one
Dr. Fred Frankel, a psychologist and former UCLA Training Program Socializing Ability, suggested a game one on one as the best way for children to build self-esteem.

Encourage children to invite a friend to play together for a few hours to know each other and make friends to practice skills. Provide snacks for a snack and prevent interruption of their activities wherever possible. Do not allow children turn on the TV during these play sessions. (* / OL-08)